Category: Dating and Relationships
wnhen you are talking on the phone with someone and you haven't met yet do you find it easy to be attractecd to that person by the sound of there voice, and do certain types of voices get you sexually excited?
Yes and yes.
Furthermore, there was a recent scientific study using FMRI technology that showed the same, or similar. Among heterosexual men, the same part of the brain activates when listening to women's voices that activates when listening to music.
It's more than just the sexual turn-on though that is there too.
Absolutely. There are some voices that really turn me on.
I wonder if they did the same FMRI study with gay guys, if men's voices would also stimulate the part of the brain that responds to music.
Or what about women, straight or gay, do they get impacted like this also?
Interesting topic.
I'm pretty sure they do, whether studies have been done or not. It just stands to reason that a woman's voice wouldn't do the same thing to a gay guy as it would to a straight guy. But when a voice is able to turn someone on, then I'd say the same sensors or triggers in the brain are activated, no matter the combination.
I think it's interesting to hear from different points so I'm glad you spoke up.
Yes, and yes.
But, I have learned that voices are deceiving.
You get hot for that voice.
Next you decide what the body, and personality will be attached to that voice.
Then you meet the voice, and half of what you wanted isn't there at all.
So, sure, I love a voice, but hold my excitement in check now days.
I admit I have always been attracted to voices; softer voices especially. Thankfully 90% of the girls I've dated had good personalities to go with them, so I was lucky.
Yes. Sometimes too much. Foreign accents ... one in particular apparently, cause my entire brain and judgment to go ... bloop! in a very loud and obvious way. Obvious only by its absence. That, and if they're sounding all comforting and soothing and sexy ... yes. Then, there's the men that I've been attracted to for slightly more preferred reasons. Personality. My special, person is one I'm attracted to by the voice and the personality.
I love voices, but it is the icing on the cake. I much prefer intelect, but having a pleasant voice doesn't hurt.
I would bet that a study of gay males and females would probably reveal the same thing. I know for me, oddly enough, I don’t like a voice that’s too deep or too high; right around the middle. I’m a middle baritone, so I like guys whose voices sound around my range or maybe a little bit higher; so, high baritone to low tenor. It’s hard to describe, but I know it when I hear it. Slight West Indian accents can really turn me on, but I’m decidedly not fond of heavy Brooklyn accents. Depending on the register of the voice, a slight southern accent can do it, but not heavy. I do think a lot can be learned from listening to someone after a while; their personality and general make-up. But I work at a call center now, and there are some voices that really turn me on to the point that if I could, I’d call and get to know the person. But that would be extremely frowned upon.
Yes Wayne, sometimes they can be misconceivinn absolutely though in my experience, not often it would seem.
Yes voices can do it for me; however when I could see it would be the voice and the
appearance. An example of this Spike from Buffy. I still can't believe he's from Texas. Any
more there's a multitude of variables that must go along with the voice. I need integrity,
honesty, intelligence, loyalty, personality , charisma, chivalry, diligence, romance, and
someone who will focus their attention on me.
You don't want very much then, do you? *grin*
Heck no! She juz wants a little bit.
Grin.
Hmm, hadn't seen this post. Yes, and yes. Some voices are turn-ons. By contrast, sometimes in the past a voice has been a real turn-off, and I have to remind myself to look past the voice to the person. It's not like we control the voices we were born with. I love my husband for tons of reasons, but won't deny that one of the more surface-level ones is that his Southern accent...just does it for me.
Yes, men's voices do definitely influence whether I'm attracted or not. But in general, I really am more influenced by their personality . Just need to sound masculine with no doubt as to gender.
Of course, what blind person isn't attracted by a voice? Kind of a given, I'd say.
Yeah, deep voices, for me, and accent matters, too, but personality and how someone treats me is ultimately what counts. Voice is going to come to be as familiar as your own, and so just less noticeable, over time.
Voices do nothing for me. I ''get'' the reasoning but I've been fooled a couple
times, lol.
Yes, voices attract me. Certain voices are comforting to me in a way that doesn't knock my judgment into the stratosphere, and I like people with unique voices. Especially in a romantic partner. My thought is, if I ever woke up in an anxiety situation, I would always be able to pick out that one voice and cling to that like there's no tomorrow.
I've always wondered why people find certain accents attractive. I've only been with one girl with a strong accent, and while her voice was very attractive, she ended up almost ending "me!". Personally, one of the things that makes me roll my eyes and shake my head are girls who get all damp in the basement over guys with specific accents. Maybe it's because I'm jealous because I just have my bland old Canadian voice, but I've just never really understood it. Yeah fine, the guy's *insert accent of choice*, but that doesn't mean he's necessarily romantic, loving, good in bed, fertile, or anything else.
Agreed. Smile.
lol at "damp in the basement". I've never heard it phrased just so. I think I shall try to work that into my vocabulary.
And, if I may say so, uh, that goes for just about any feature men find attractive about women. Or women about women or men about men, men about women yada yada. An accent alone doesn't do it for me, it has to be the right voice with the accent. I would say I'm more likely to be turned off by certain accents than turned on by certain accents or accents in general.
Is that a Canadian phrase or one of your own making? I am entertaining myself with thoughts of all the confusion that could arise if a woman tells a man her basement is flooded. Or that she has a leak in her basement...
One of my own making, as far as I know. Didn't want to use the usual turns of phrase. Need to get my originality where I can.
I'm Canadian, and I've never heard that one before. Heh.
Oh my yes. I've had that happen many times.
yeah, I loved my boyfriends voice from the first time I heard him on the phone.
I like a bit of a rasp to a woman's voice as long as she's not a smoker.
I have found that the accents did it for me when i was younger. Now for some reason I find that a really low voice in the right state of mind can drive me absolutely mad. But I think that's based partially on the person in question. I'm not as attracted by the voice anymore as I am with the personality, and I'm not as attracted and excitable as I was two years ago, thank goodness.
Since my initial post in this thread, my opinion has changed. Maybe it's the
fact that my vision has gotten worse or maybe I just finally heard a voice I
liked. It's not foreign accents or regional ones - it's kind of hard to explain - it
is the very famine and sweet voices. I understand that is vague but I know it
when I hear it. It also isn't a turn on thing with me; more but more like a 'I
wanna wake up every morning to that' sort of thing.
some voices can turn me on, but its a combination of voice and accent I think.
Some voices I might like as in that's cool or that's hot, but I won't ever feel turned on.
I learned a long time ago not to trust a voice in relation to how a person would actually be. So, now, nice voices are well, nice, but that's the extent of it. I need more to get interested in a person.
Rarely can a voice by itself turn me on, though obviously I find some more attractive than others. What turns me on is more what they say with that voice. LOL
Yep. Laughing.